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Puberty was one of my worst experiences. The disassociation I had from myself skyrocketed. I can attribute the clinical depression I developed in part to the unidentifiable feeling that something was horribly wrong with the way I looked and what my body was doing and a persistent feeling of hopelessness about it.
I only discovered that transgender people existed because I was looking for lgb comics and resources online, as I was also having a difficult time figuring out my sexual orientation. I stumbled upon one piece that included a female-to-male transgender character. It was the first time I had ever heard of it, but immediately I was able to see myself in the character I found and start questioning whether I might be transgender myself. At that point, however, in many ways things were too late. There is the option of puberty blockers to prevent puberty in both female-to-male and male-to-female transgender children, but you have to catch it early. You can’t undo most secondary sex characteristics in a natural way.
It’s been about a decade since I first found out transgender identity existed. I’m at a point with my transition where I’m at peace with the body I have and I can accept living in it. Nonetheless, I still regret that I could have saved myself thousands of dollars, multiple surgeries, and years of pain, suffering, and dysphoria if someone had just told me that transgender people existed when I was small.
