There is a lot of criticism towards the asexual community and the aromantic community for all the new terminology both communities put together. Most criticism centers around confusion and questions as to why these terms are a necessity.
I was raised in a home with straight parents, whose friends were mainly couples — straight, lesbian and gay. All were in committed relationships. Most stayed together for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, until parted by death.
I have described all the types of romantic orientations and we will take a look at one of them that’s fairly personal to me, the alterous attraction. Yes, it is my orientation, and I will do my best to describe what it feels like to be alterous.
This is what the youth are taught nowadays. That once they are older they will want sex and relationships. That everyone want and have sex and everyone wants a romantic relationship. And it’s mostly assumed that they will want a boy or a girl, depending on their gender, or what society presumes is their gender.
This is another issue not only asexuals face, but anyone who doesn’t want sex for whatever reason. And that is the “withholding sex” issue.
I’ve been thinking about writing this for quite a while now, but only now have I decided to do so. It may shed some light on what the life of a sex-repulsed ace is like. I hope it will help people to better understand us. And it may help someone else to find themselves, find that they are not alone, or help in some other way.
I first met Karen through Facebook in August 2010, when Facebook used to suggest friends for you.
I am a woodworker making small boxes and pens.