To this day, people are unbelievably curious about how it all happened…how on earth did I ever get married and have kids, and then get divorced and come out? How did I not know I was gay? It’s by far the most frequently asked question I get, no matter where I go and who I […]
I suppose if you’re cis (or just think you are), you want to know how people come to this type of conclusion about ourselves.
After all, it’s not like we live in a world or culture where it’s any at all “normal” for people to question their assigned gender at birth (AGAB) at any point in their lives.
First off, what does it truly mean to be asexual?
The definition of Asexuality is when one does not feel sexual attraction. There is nothing wrong with this, nothing that should be fixed. It is a real sexual orientation.
In my travels across the country to offer workshops, I sometimes fear how audiences in the red states receive my work. I grew up in a very conservative household, politically and religiously.
Firstly, my medical history hasn’t directly impacted on my identity as what I would often say is ’90% non-straight’. However …in retrospect it defiantly made the coming out process more difficult.
My ‘coming out’ was probably one of the worst experiences I’ve ever had. As an abuse victim my sexuality has always been hard to wrestle with. What I mean by that is that my natural self-discovery of my sexuality and my sexual self was fundamentally skewed and warped because right before I hit puberty I was sexually abused by my then best friend (who was several years older) who was a man.
I have always thought living with a mental illness was the hardest thing I ever faced in my life but coming out was just as hard. I struggled discovering who I really was and what I wanted.