All the way through grade school and most of high school, I was picked on. Back then no one ever spoke of ‘bullies’, no supports of any tangible kind. No anti-bullying campaigns, GSA’s or teachers looking out for students. In fact, many teachers perpetuated the bullying by either supporting it or ignoring it altogether. And because no one ever told me these boys were bullies I thought it was my fault.
I knew at a very young age that I was not like other boys my age. I never liked the typical “boys toys, ” and I would always rather play with dolls and other toys typically associated with girls. Then when I was 12 years old, I told the ﬁrst person I knew at a very young age that I was not like other boys and when I was 12 years old I told the ﬁrst person that I was gay, and it was a huge relief.
I developed this speech with the goal of bringing awareness to an ignored subject. LGBT+ youth are not properly represented in schools. I tried to share my views with my peers and respected adults, but they were all trained to believe that LGBT people are irrelevant to society.
In another life I was married for ten years. To a man. This information always seems to throw people off when they first hear about it. I frequently get questions like “how does that work?” or “how did you end up dating women?” And to many people it probably seems confusing or surprising, but it was actually a long time coming.
It never really occurred to me that being gay would change me as a person. It helped me change my way of thinking, it helped me to think of life in a more positive way.
Firstly, my medical history hasn’t directly impacted on my identity as what I would often say is ’90% non-straight’. However …in retrospect it defiantly made the coming out process more difficult.