I have begun to shed my femininity again. It always begins with my hair. The act of cutting my own hair comes too easily — the scissors are right there, sharp and waiting. It took me months to return to this point. I told myself I’d get my hair cut by a professional at an actual salon (my mom’s preference, for sure) once I moved back to California for the summer, and that I’d just have to deal with the shoulder length curls — my definition of long hair — until then.
Wheaton College on “Christ-Centered Diversity”: At Wheaton, we believe that honoring God in everything we do includes honoring him in relationships that bring together people from different ethnic backgrounds. That’s why we’re committed to cultivating a diverse community of students, faculty and staff who reflect the wide spectrum of God’s Kingdom.
All the way through grade school and most of high school, I was picked on. Back then no one ever spoke of ‘bullies’, no supports of any tangible kind. No anti-bullying campaigns, GSA’s or teachers looking out for students. In fact, many teachers perpetuated the bullying by either supporting it or ignoring it altogether. And because no one ever told me these boys were bullies I thought it was my fault.
I knew at a very young age that I was not like other boys my age. I never liked the typical “boys toys, ” and I would always rather play with dolls and other toys typically associated with girls. Then when I was 12 years old, I told the ﬁrst person I knew at a very young age that I was not like other boys and when I was 12 years old I told the ﬁrst person that I was gay, and it was a huge relief.
I developed this speech with the goal of bringing awareness to an ignored subject. LGBT+ youth are not properly represented in schools. I tried to share my views with my peers and respected adults, but they were all trained to believe that LGBT people are irrelevant to society.
In another life I was married for ten years. To a man. This information always seems to throw people off when they first hear about it. I frequently get questions like “how does that work?” or “how did you end up dating women?” And to many people it probably seems confusing or surprising, but it was actually a long time coming.
It never really occurred to me that being gay would change me as a person. It helped me change my way of thinking, it helped me to think of life in a more positive way.