It was 1992 when I hit puberty. The Internet was just becoming a thing. The only exposure I had to homosexuality or even the concept of homosexuality was basically the TV show “Will and Grace” and perhaps reruns of “Three’s Company” – not that “Jack” was actually gay. I grew up in a very religiously conservative household and community.
I’ve recently discovered that I’m gay, you know like the usual thing that happens during high school when you figure out the person that you and figure out what to do for the rest of your life. Well, mind didn’t really go ask I wanted to.
I hope this article helps someone. That is it’s only purpose. If you read my last post, you’ll know that I don’t usually put all my cares and worries out there for everyone to see. If you meet me in person, you’ll probably think that I’m a fairly happy and optimistic person (because I am, inherently, although I do live with depression as well) and I like to keep it that way. I can be strong for all of us, but especially for myself.
I came out in 2008, and met my first lover in 2009. We met through Adam 4 Adam, and it was love at first site. We literally steamed the windows of my car the first day we met.
For me, and for a large majority of the LGBT community, coming out is a process. It is not a mere one-time event, it is a continuum and a range spanning from not being “out” at all where no one is aware of your identity or your orientation (maybe you might not even be aware of it yourself) to all the way being completely “out” where everyone knows who you are and you hold no part of yourself back.
Vincent Marchisello opens up about his experience with coming out and being a Christian. He discusses his struggles with depression stating, “There was one day I was really done…
I suppose if you’re cis (or just think you are), you want to know how people come to this type of conclusion about ourselves.
After all, it’s not like we live in a world or culture where it’s any at all “normal” for people to question their assigned gender at birth (AGAB) at any point in their lives.